Depression therapy - San Francisco Bay Area
It's really hard right now, but depression doesn't have to rule your life.
Anny Papatheodorou, LMFT
Therapy offerings for adults in Walnut Creek, Oakland, and available online throughout California
We don't have to do all of it alone.
We were never meant to.
— Brené Brown, PhD.
What does living with depression look like?
We all experience sadness throughout the course of life. Depression, though, goes way beyond feeling sad or down. Depression can be so powerful and debilitating, leaving you feeling worthless, purposeless, hopeless, and without the ability to just "snap out of it."
People around you might be highlighting all the positives in your life: “What do you have to be depressed about?” or "It's not so horrible, you'll be OK." It aches to hear this because they just don’t get it. Or you may have the impression that what you're going through isn't so terrible, especially in comparison to all the other tragic things going on in the world.
What used to bring you joy, doesn’t anymore. You find yourself in a dark place, alone, and scared at times. You find it hard to care about anything and you may be more irritable than usual, or just want to withdraw and isolate.
You’re tired of feeling this way, and just want your life back.
Severe depression can be very dangerous, even deadly. If you or a loved one are in a life threatening situation, do not use this site.
Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, a free, 24-hour hotline: 1-800-273-8255. Your call will be routed to the crisis center near you.
What are symptoms of depression?
physical
insomnia
disturbed sleeping patterns
being fatigued
changes in appetite & weight
emotional
sadness
irritability & anger
shame & guilt
nervousness
thoughts
self-criticism
hopelessness & helplessness
suicidal thoughts
concentration difficulties
behaviors
withdrawal from others
apathy
not finding pleasure
indecisiveness
You are not to blame for depression
Depression zaps our energy, our vitality, our life force. Depression commonly develops when our brain is unable to hold and process frightening emotions such as anger, and therefore shuts down. When we don’t learn or aren’t taught how to move through our emotions, our brain can perceive an emotion such as anger as a threat, and will guard us against it by all means. Unfortunately, the price we pay may be our own vitality, pleasure, and purpose.
There might be many barriers between you and seeking out therapy for depression - feeling fearful that there’s no relief in sight, fearful of acknowledging the need for help, fearful of disappointing others, and fearful of disappointing yourself if this too doesn't work.
Most importantly, depression itself may be preventing you from seeking treatment. If you are depressed, it is possible that you’re feeling hopeless and helpless, and live in this endless loop of knowing deep down that you need help, yet not reaching out to get the help you need and deserve.
We work with these barriers to help you access and process your emotions, rediscover and nourish your authenticity and sense of identity, as well as heal previous traumas that brought upon the tough feelings you defended against initially.
Approach to depression therapy
I understand how difficult it may be to open up to someone you barely know. Please rest assured that I don’t expect you to list all your worries in our first session, nor do I have a set of predetermined questions that we go through. As a wise teacher once told me, therapy can only move at the pace we build trust between us. I take pride in establishing a welcoming, comfortable environment where you can be yourself without fear of being criticized and/or judged.
Therapy can alleviate feelings of isolation by providing a sounding board for you to speak your truth, and verbalize what may have been left unsaid and unprocessed. Together, we can identify thoughts patterns and ingrained beliefs that no longer serve you, as well as shed light on and shift behaviors that keep you limited and unfulfilled.
I work primarily through an Internal Family Systems (IFS) lens, as well as integrate mindfulness practices, in particular mindful self-compassion. For more on my approach, please visit this page.
In therapy, we can identify the triggers to get to the source of the suffering, identify short and long term solutions to bring about a sense of relief, and explore different avenues to help balance how you view yourself and your future.
Seeking help for depression takes fortitude and grit, and it may be one of the most important decisions you make for your well-being.
Depressive symptoms can improve, and relief is attainable.
If you would like therapy for depression, please reach out.
FAQs about depression therapy
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Yes, many people suffer from anxiety as well as depression since both conditions can co-exist, and can even be two sides of the same coin.
Anxiety and depression are more closely related than might be imagined, despite the fact that anxiety is a high-energy state and depression is a low-energy state.
A person suffering from depression is likely to have a great deal of anxiety, possibly to the point of panic attacks. For instance, if you are in an anxious state and find yourself perpetually worrying, you feel bad about that. You may feel like you’ve failed, and may also experience feelings of shame and harsh self-criticism. That can often move you into depression.
While co-occurring anxiety and depression can exacerbate symptoms, treatment is most effective when both are treated at the same time.
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A person who is experiencing grief or loss manifests symptoms due to the loss of a loved one, a beloved pet, their employment/income, or anything that holds true meaning for them, such as loss of country or the place they call home.
Although many people might call themselves depressed, depression is not the same as sadness and grief. That said, a person who is grieving may manifest depression.
How grief presents:
There may be a precipitating event, such as death of a loved one or pet, loss of a significant other, loss of country/culture, loss of home, personal injury or illness, loss of employment, major life transition like retirement, loss of a friendship, loss of a personal dream, etc.
Grief is an inevitable part of living and being human.
Sad feelings are intermingled with joyful memories and heartfelt nostalgia.
Even though your sadness is prevalent, you don’t have suicidal thoughts, or feel helpless, hopeless, and worthless.
You can still find pleasure in other activities.
How depression presents and persists for a significant period of time:
Feelings of persistent sadness, anxiety, as well as numbness.
Feelings of hopelessness and/or despair.
Feelings of helplessness, guilt, shame, and/or worthlessness.
No interest in engaging in otherwise pleasurable activities and hobbies.
Feelings of tiredness, loss of energy, lethargy.
Irritability, restlessness, and agitation.
Having a hard time concentrating, focusing, and making decisions.
Sleeping patterns are disturbed, perhaps sleeping less or too much.
Noticeable weight change (loss or gain), as well as changes in appetite.
Suicidal thoughts and/or attempts.
Aches and pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive issues that have no obvious medical explanation and/or do not improve despite medical treatment.
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Medication may be beneficial, and I often collaborate with psychiatrists in the treatment of depression, particularly when it seems to have a biological rather than situational nature.
Still, research has demonstrated that having nourishing relationships and support is a central part of recovery. In the therapeutic setting, within a stable and safe environment, you can address the root causes of your depression, as well as learn how to enhance other relationships in your life.
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The root of depression is complex. There is probably a genetic predisposition and may often accompany anxiety and trauma.
Some difficult triggers can include the death of a loved one, divorce, illness, or having a challenging relationship with alcohol and other substances.
It is not uncommon for life transitions that on the surface appear positive (weddings, pregnancy, children going to college, retirement) to trigger feelings of depression.
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No. Different people are affected by depression in different ways.
For example:
Older adults with depression may have less visible symptoms or be less willing to acknowledge symptoms of depression. They are also more likely to have medical conditions that can lead to or exacerbate depression.
Women are thought to be more prone to depression than men. Women's depression rates may be linked to biological, reproductive, and hormonal aspects that are specific to women, as well as how women are treated in society. Sadness, worthlessness, and guilt are common symptoms of depression in women.
Younger children with depression may act unwell, intensely attach to a parent, or be caught in fearful thoughts that a parent may die, and/or refuse to go to school and participate in activities.
Teens experiencing depression may get into trouble at school, and exhibit irritability and frustration. Anxiety is often present, as well as eating disorders, substance abuse, and many of the other symptoms seen with adults.
Welcome! I’m Anny.
I'm a licensed psychotherapist certified in Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy and Brainspotting therapy. Not to mention a fantasy novel nerd, human and dog mother, and feta cheese aficionado.
I know in my bones what it is like to come from a challenging and painful background. As a relational trauma therapist, I have the honor of helping people heal their childhood wounds so that they create lives full of possibility and choice.
In our work together, I bring my full Self, meaning I'm right there with you every step of the way. I'm not a "blank slate" and will offer reflections and personal examples that may shed some light on your experiences, moments of "stuckness," and isolation.
I can hold intensity. There's no such thing as "being too much or too needy." I will laugh with you. I will curse with you. And welcome all parts of you wholeheartedly.
“Ring the bells that still can ring. Forget your perfect offering. There is a crack, a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in.”
— Leonard Cohen